If we are being honest, one of the things we most aspire to be is apart of the “it crowd”. Now this crowd changes depending on our interests, our likes and dislikes, our desires, and what we view as most important. There’s the kicker. What we view as most important. What’s most important could be what truly holds our heart, or what’s most important to get us what we want. Now here is the second part. Most of us don’t ever want to be disliked by anyone. We hold one ground with one “it group”, and turn around and hold another opinion with another group. These groups don’t necessarily have to be against one another, focused in the same area, or even know about one another. The point is that we are not the same person all the time. We change to please those around us, to not feel left out, and to be accepted. But why would you want to be accepted by people that cause you to change something about you. Whether you realize it or not.
Now don’t get me wrong, I totally believe that you can naturally act somewhat different around different people. And I totally believe in the need to feel accepted and wanted by others. Some people pull the more serious or funny side out of you. You do different things with different people, have different likes and dislikes in common. What I’m talking about is the obvious changes in people depending on who they are with. There is nothing more unattractive and un-beautiful than someone who changes themselves for others. Not to mention how fake you seem to those around you.
Stand up for who you are, what you believe in, what you want, and who you want to be. Maybe you don’t need to “stand up” for yourself, but at least have the confidence and courage to be who you are. And maybe you need to find yourself a bit. Maybe you never realized how much those around you influenced you, but you don’t have the same feelings or beliefs as they do. Disclaimer: I’m not talking about bullying. I’m not talking about being with a group who mistreats you, bullies you and changes you completely. But I am talking about being two-faced, and different to please those around you.
If you put in more time into a relationship, while the other party wont give you anything back, they aren’t worth your time. If you feel the need to constantly prove yourself, walk on egg shells, say the right thing, then the group you’re with or the friendship you are in, are not healthy. It’s been said 1000 times before: there is only one you, so be you. Don’t play both sides of the fence. People will find out, people will notice, and as far as I know, no one likes it.
Be a beautiful person, like you are. Be someone you admire, your are proud of.